Love as an expanded self-interest

July 17, 2008

I’d like to offer, as food for thought, this quotation from psychotherapist and author Nathaniel Branden:

“When we love, our concept of our self-interest expands to embrace the well-being of our partner. That is the great compliment of love: to declare to another being that his or her happiness is of selfish importance to ourselves.”


One comment

  1. I just watched a video of Randy Pausch as he surprised graduates with a speech at Carnegie Mellon in May. He ended by saying that he didn’t marry until he was 39 because it took him that long to find someone whose happiness mattered more to him than his own. What a love they shared. I think Randy would have agreed that he benefited just as much as she did.

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