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Lightening Up

June 19, 2017

It’s a beautiful summer morning in Royal Oak, Michigan. The sky is blue, the sun is shining, the temperature is 72 degrees. Weather like this reminds me that life isn’t always chilly winter blasts or heavy air or thunderstorms. Life can be beautiful. And when it is, let’s not muck it up! Let’s not turn it into some kind of effort on our part, as if we could add anything to this moment! All we need to do is just sit back and relax and soak it in! So as a recovering Type A, who’s relearning everyday that keeping it simple is an art and that less is often more, I recommend a thought today from Melody Beattie:

We are worthy, even when life isn’t that hard. Our value and worth are not determined by how hard we struggle.


“When nothing else is certain….”

May 28, 2016

Ray and I are catching up with some programs backlogged on our DVR. Yesterday night, we watched Call the Midwife, the first episode from Season 5. The plot involved a baby girl born without arms or legs.

At the time, the doctor and midwives had no idea that the baby’s physical disabilities resulted from the thalidomide that the pregnant mother had received as a prescription. The show dramatized the first reactions of the midwives, the doctor, the new father and new mother as well as the siblings. All involved learned–sooner or later–not only to accept but to embrace the newborn girl as she is. But I was most impressed by the voiceover commentary at the end of the episode. I think it applies only all too well for any uncertain time in which we find ourselves. What do you think?

“Love grows when nothing else is certain, changing its shape to fill the space required.”



Not-So-Thankful Pup?

March 29, 2016

Okay…somehow, through the magic of mailing lists shared without my permission, I now receive a “Touch of Class” catalog. I get a kick out of thumbing through the glossy pictures while I’m eating lunch. Well, I almost lost my lunch when I saw an item called: “Thankful Pup Sculpture.”

I presume the artist and the catalog meant well…but, frankly, this sculpture looks like a dog that has little to be thankful for!

Here’s the link. What do YOU think?


“One step beyond”

March 20, 2016

I was browsing books on Amazon when I saw this comment by Brian Tracy, author of The Way to Wealth. I hope it inspires you as much as it has inspired me today:

“Most people will achieve their greatest success one step beyond what looked like their greatest failure.”


“Thank you for your business”

March 7, 2016

As a customer, I love hearing a clerk or store-owner tell me: “Thank you for your business.”

Unfortunately, I don’t hear that very often these days. Instead, I’m noticing an ironic twist between clerks and customers. Instead of clerks thanking customers for their business, the clerks often say nothing…then, more often than not, customers fill-in-the-blank and say “thank you” to the clerks!

I have to admit, I sometimes find myself doing the same thing. When that happens, I wonder why we customers so easily slip into this behavior. Why do we thank clerks for the privilege of shopping at that store?

Don’t get me wrong. I like politeness. It just seems that the situation is bass-ackwards. I think it’s easy to get sucked into that vacuum of silence at the cash register. It’s a moment when it seems that somebody should say something…and we feel that that “something” is a “thank you”…and if the clerk doesn’t say it, then WE will say it!

On days when I have more presence of mind, I sometimes respond to that silence by saying  “Okay” or “Have a nice day.” I feel it’s a polite way of responding to clerks who don’t thank me for my business.

I realize this whole topic may seem a bit trivial. I guess it is. But as I see it, most of our days are filled with trivial things. Ralph Waldo Emerson once remarked: “Manners are the happy way of doing things.” So why wouldn’t a store want a customer to be happy? Why shouldn’t a clerk thank a customer for patronizing a store–and not the other way around?

This morning, I shopped at two national retailers. Neither clerk thanked me for my business.


Please Light a Candle Today

December 4, 2015

CandleWe’ve all heard the saying: “It is better to light one candle than to curse the darkness.”

In my opinion, there is no better time to practice that philosophy than TODAY. People of good will around the world are tired of hearing about today’s mass shooting or today’s act of terrorism, whether foreign or domestic.

Granted, we cannot stop all this carnage directly…but WE CAN HELP INDIRECTLY by contacting our decision-makers in Washington, D.C. Pressure works. Movements work. But we must be willing to do more than pray and be sad for the state of our country and our world.

Here is my proposal: Every time there is a another mass shooting, let’s contact our United States Representative and Senators. Call the U.S. Capitol Building and ask to leave a voice message for each of them. The number is (202) 224-3121 or (866) 220-0044.

Or send an e-mail. Here’s a link to find the e-mail of your U.S. Representative: You can quickly find the link to e-mail your U.S. Senator by following this formula: www.(Last name of Senator without parentheses) So in Michigan, you can go to or

There are some who may try to convince us that all this will do no good. They may say it won’t work to change laws and create sensible rules for responsible gun ownership. But I disagree. The proof is in the numbers. After all, why do well-heeled lobbying groups spend millions of dollars each year to convince our legislators not to pass sensible measures? Because sensible measures do make a difference! No one law will be the answer…but when we see that a sensible step should be taken, let’s pressure our legislators to take that step. That is what this post is all about.

We may never know who was stopped from committing a mass shooting because of sensible measures. Usually, that doesn’t make the news. All we may see is that, the next time there’s a mass shooting, the weapons lobbyists will say: “See? Those gun measures didn’t work!” They will say that so that we feel any action we take would be useless. They want to paralyze us from acting as citizens and expressing our desire to slow down this carnage. But each day that a mass shooting doesn’t occur, we will know that sensible measures do make a difference. And if there is another mass shooting, let’s take more action.

So this is what I plan to do: Every time I start to see the sad posts on Facebook about the latest mass shooting, I will repost this link…with a reminder to get on our feet and take some action. Take two minutes to call your two Senators and your Representative. That’s six minutes of your time for useful action…six minutes to light a candle instead of cursing the darkness.

It is right to feel our grief and frustration and anger over this. It is NOT normal to have a mass shooting every day in this country. We should NOT grow inured to this violence. Instead, let us turn our outrage into constructive action.


Ask your doctor about DTC pharmaceutical ads!

November 23, 2015

Have you had the Detrol talk with your doctor? Have you asked your doctor if you’ve traveled to a location where certain fungal infections are common? Are you tired of seeing surreal fuzzy cats and glowing green butterflies and people made of pipes…or critters who look like a cross between your intestines and a bubble gum blob…or a child-like bladder that keeps dragging you to the bathroom? How you noticed the color-cues in pharmaceutical commercials…where every scene contains purple or blue?

Did you ever wonder what your doctor thinks of all these direct-to-consumer (DTC) pharmaceutical ads? Well wonder no longer. The American Medical Association has taken a stand. See the article here from Bloomberg News.